Sarah McLachlan Rebuilds Bond with Eldest Daughter Through Therapy
Sarah McLachlan, a 58-year-old musician, has recently shared her experiences of parenting and rebuilding her relationship with her eldest daughter, India Ann Sood. In a candid discussion with actress Amy Poehler on “Good Hang with Amy Poehler,” McLachlan reflected on her parenting style and its impact on her daughter.
Reevaluating Parenting Strategies
McLachlan revealed that she initially approached parenting with a tough love philosophy. She recognized that her methods may have been too stern. “I was a hard ass,” she admitted during the conversation.
She has two daughters, India, born in 2002, and Taja Summer, born in 2007, with her ex-husband Ashwin Sood. Reflecting on her own childhood, she aimed to parent differently than her own mother, only to find herself repeating familiar patterns in moments of frustration.
Understanding Anxiety Through Family Counseling
McLachlan noted that her elder daughter would often shut down or react negatively during difficult moments. These behaviors were perplexing to the singer until the family sought professional counseling. “I realized my daughter was experiencing a lot of anxiety,” she explained.
Through therapy, McLachlan learned that her communication style often left her daughter feeling inadequate rather than supported. “I thought I was helping her, but I was just making her feel worse,” she acknowledged.
Building a Stronger Connection
The counseling experience prompted McLachlan to reassess her approach. “I had to eat a lot of humble pie,” she said, recognizing the need for change to foster a better relationship. She began to focus on how to communicate effectively with India, leading to more profound connections.
- McLachlan emphasized taking responsibility for one’s reactions.
- The process of rebuilding trust and love was described as “long but beautiful and powerful.”
- Today, McLachlan enjoys an open and loving relationship with her daughter.
Music as a Reflection of Growth
McLachlan has previously mentioned that her relationship with India inspired her second single, “Gravity,” from her latest album released last year. She noted the significance of this song during a challenging period, expressing joy in their current positive dynamics.
In her remarks to People, she described therapy as a “safe environment” that facilitated connection. “The way I was communicating my love was not being heard by her,” McLachlan stated, emphasizing the unfulfilled desire to bond with her daughter.
India Sood has not publicly commented on these intimate discussions. McLachlan’s journey highlights how openness and professional guidance can mend family relationships.
